I am keeping it together, but only barely.
Your competence still works. The exhaustion, pressure, or emptiness beneath it is becoming harder to keep private.
Read about work, success, and identityBegin with what is already pressing on the story.
Some men know the pattern before they have language for everything beneath it. These pages offer a quieter place to begin.
Unwanted pornography useWhen a private pattern has become difficult to carry alone.Anger and overreactionWhen the reaction is larger than the moment.Burnout and achievementWhen success no longer feels like an answer.Trauma and shameWhen the past keeps speaking through the present.Relationship withdrawalWhen distance has become the safest place you know.Regaining trustWhen a rupture has changed a marriage or close relationship.
You do not need to explain it perfectly to begin
The place where the story starts pressing through.
Most men do not come because they lack strength. They come because the strength that carried them is no longer enough to carry what it costs.
I am becoming someone I do not want to be.
The anger, distance, overwork, numbness, or defensiveness may be the place where the story is asking to be understood.
Explore the pattern beneath the reactionA change has unsettled the story I thought I knew.
A career loss, health concern, death, divorce, betrayal, retirement, or quiet shift in identity can leave a man without the old map.
See the moments that bring men hereMany of us were raised inside wounded masculine environments. Fathers, grandfathers, men who were themselves wounded, began weaving the ongoing narrative of masculine woundedness long before we arrived. They handed us the torch. Not out of malice. Out of the only story they knew.
And so we lived it. We wrote our own chapter of that narrative. And we began, unknowingly and unintentionally, to weave it into the lives of the people closest to us. Through our dismissiveness. Our aggressiveness. Our lack of presence. Not because we chose to wound. Because we had never been shown another way.
This is the story we are handed. Most men live it out until something stops them. A marriage in crisis. A son who has grown distant. A career that achieved everything and satisfied nothing. A quiet, persistent sense that the life being lived was written for someone else.
That moment of stopping is the beginning of the couragepath.
I have witnessed this across decades of work with men. I have also lived it in my own story. Hundreds of men sharing their journeys. I have been honored to sit in tens of thousands of sessions, listening and processing the struggles within the life journey we experience as men. Our journey, our story, waiting to be heard and honored. What I have seen, consistently and without exception, is that when a man begins seeking the story underneath his story, something shifts that reaches far beyond his own healing. I have watched men come into their peace and their courage, begin living a different story as a husband, a father, a grandfather, and begin passing along something entirely different to the next generation. Not a heritage of masculine woundedness. A legacy of masculine wholeness.
That is what this work is for.
Not performance. Not self-improvement. Not becoming a better version of the same wounded story. The breaking of a lineage. The passing of a different torch.
If you are a man who senses that the story you are living was handed to you rather than chosen by you, and if some part of you is ready to find out what the story underneath it actually says, this work was built for that moment.
The men's work section of this site was written specifically for you.
Session Details
$225per 50-minute session
Individual therapy is available by secure video throughout California, with in-person appointments in Fair Oaks. Life Telling Therapy is a private-pay practice, and a superbill can be provided for clients who use out-of-network benefits.
View fees and practical details →What is men's work in therapy?
Men's work in therapy refers to a focused, depth-oriented approach to the psychological and emotional dimensions of masculine experience. It takes seriously the specific ways that men are wounded, the specific ways those wounds are defended against, and the specific arc of healing that is available to men who are willing to follow the story underneath the struggle. It is not about fixing men or making them softer. It is about helping men become more fully themselves.
Is therapy for men different from general therapy?
In practice, yes. Men often come to therapy with a different relationship to vulnerability, emotion, and the therapeutic process than women do. The work I do is designed with this in mind: it is rigorous, structured, and oriented toward the story and the wound rather than toward emotional expression as an end in itself. Many men who have tried general therapy and found it unhelpful find that this approach fits them better.
Do you only work with men?
Yes. My practice is focused exclusively on men. This is not a statement about the relative importance of men's and women's struggles. It is a recognition that the specific wounds, defenses, and healing arc of masculine experience benefit from a focused, specialized approach. The work I do is built around the specific terrain of men's inner lives.