Online therapy for men in San Diego is available through Life Telling Therapy, a California-licensed private practice offering virtual depth therapy for high-achieving men throughout San Diego and all of California. Jon Holmes, LMFT, specializes in narrative therapy, executive identity, burnout recovery, trauma integration, and men's wound work. Free 15-minute consultations are currently available.
San Diego produces men who carry a great deal without showing it.
San Diego has a particular masculine culture: disciplined, stoic, oriented toward mission and performance. The Navy officer who has led men through high-stakes deployments and returns home to find that the relational skills that kept his crew alive are not the ones his marriage needs. The biotech executive in Torrey Pines who has spent fifteen years building something that matters and has quietly lost the thread of who he is outside the work. The veteran who left the service with a distinguished record and a private interior life that no one in his civilian world knows how to hold. These are the men I work with.
San Diego men tend to be skeptical of therapy that feels soft, abstract, or disconnected from the real demands of a demanding life. The work I do is not that. Life Telling Processing is rigorous, structured, and oriented toward the story underneath the struggle. It respects the intelligence and the discipline of the men who come to it.
The specific wound patterns I encounter in San Diego.
Military and veteran men carry a particular version of the Warrior wound: the man who was trained to subordinate his inner life to the mission and who arrives at the end of his service career without a language for what the mission cost him. The biotech and life sciences professional carries a version of the Sovereign wound: the man whose identity is fused with his research, his company, or his clinical outcomes, and who has never been asked what he wants apart from what he produces. The man in midlife in La Jolla or Coronado who has built a life that looks like everything he was supposed to want and feels like a stranger's life. These are the stories I hear most often from San Diego men.
100% Virtual. Available to Any California Resident.
All sessions are conducted via a secure, HIPAA-compliant video platform. You join from your home in Point Loma, your office in Sorrento Valley, or anywhere private. There is no commute on the 5 or the 163, no waiting room, and no gap in your schedule that colleagues can see. Sessions are 50 minutes and scheduled around the demands of a demanding life.
Who I work with in San Diego.
Active duty and veteran military officers navigating the transition from service identity to civilian life, or processing the accumulated weight of a career in high-stakes environments. Biotech, life sciences, and defense industry executives in Torrey Pines, Sorrento Valley, and the broader San Diego technology corridor. Physicians and surgeons at Scripps, Sharp, UCSD Health, and the region's major medical systems. Attorneys, financial professionals, and business owners across San Diego County. Men in midlife in La Jolla, Coronado, Del Mar, Encinitas, and throughout the region who are quietly asking what the second half is for.
Life Telling Processing
Life Telling Processing (LTP) is a contemplative-archetypal approach to men's therapy developed over twenty years of clinical practice. Rather than managing symptoms, LTP follows the story underneath the struggle. The San Diego veteran does not need another resilience protocol. The biotech executive does not need another optimization framework. They need someone to sit with them in the question they have not been able to answer with a framework. LTP is that kind of work: unhurried, serious, and oriented toward the story rather than the solution.
Does Jon Holmes work with San Diego clients?
Yes. Virtual therapy is available to any man who currently resides in California, including throughout San Diego County: La Jolla, Coronado, Point Loma, Mission Hills, North Park, Hillcrest, Del Mar, Encinitas, Carlsbad, Oceanside, Chula Vista, El Cajon, Santee, and all San Diego neighborhoods and communities.
Jon Holmes, LMFT. California License MFC 45850. Virtual: throughout California. In-person: 7996 Old Winding Way, Suite 210, Fair Oaks, CA 95628. Phone: 916-534-8244.